Most of you who have been round here for a while know that I’m a cancer survivor. For the newer readers or those who will appreciate a recap, I had cervical cancer, it was a 7mm tumour, they thought it spread into my lymph-vascular system, it didn’t, I had a ‘Radical Hysterectomy’ which involves removing the uterus as well as the cervix. I am, in essence, a darned sock* for sexual organs. My ovaries were spared and relocated to sunny new condos in my abdomen for their protection should I require additional treatment.
I am happy. I am unable to bear children and don’t find that difficult to deal with. I never wanted children. To me, the operation was as if they had taken out my appendix- it’s nothing I need for any specific purpose and I wouldn’t miss it if it was gone.
I don’t feel damaged.
I feel liberated.
So why bring it up if I don’t have a chip on my shoulder or some rant to indulge? (This is a blog after all and too often blogs get wrapped up in the negative experiences of a person’s life… hopefully, you don’t find much of that here.)
I saw an article on my RSS news feed this morning about helping women through the post-cancer sexual difficulties. I had them to a certain extent, even some amounts of depression surrounding it, but I ‘found myself’ again and am a well-adjusted ‘whole’ female in my eyes. This BBC article introduced a device (available through the NHS) to help women on the journey to sexual satisfaction after gynaecological cancer surgery. It’s an article about a device that cares about a woman’s enjoyment and involvement in sex again- not the typical women’s health stance of simply keeping her disease free.
Here’s the article link. I hope it helps someone out there.
You go girls!
*For those who may be puzzled by this term: if you have a hole in your sock, you ‘darn’ it. That’s where you take a needle and thread to sew it up. Nearly unheard of in our throwaway society these days…